If you are like many people, you may see setting boundaries of what you allow into your life as something you shouldn’t do, thinking that it’s a selfish act.

“My parents have always been so caring, and they have always been concerned for me. We’ve enjoyed a great relationship my whole life, especially as an adult. But … I just got a job offer that is the position of my dreams! When I told my parents about it, it all changed.

“They started to tell me that my dad’s health wasn’t good - I had no idea it was that bad; my mom started telling me that she’s lonely and I’m the only bright spot in her life and they reminded me of all the sacrifices they’ve made for me.

They’ve given their lives to me … how can I leave them after all of that?”

This is a common dilemma. A major obstacle to setting boundaries with others in our lives is our feelings of obligation.

Many people simply avoid this dilemma by not...